May 21, 2013

Emotional Intelligence

Posted in Hypnosis, Hypnosis Training, Hypnotherapy at 9:40 am by hypnosiscenterofva

 What is emotional intelligence? It is the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups. Why is it important? Because we see the world not as it is but as we are. If we are angry, we tend to see and find things that support that feeling. The same is true of any strong emotion.  So if we can’t control and manage our negative emotions, they become compounded by external events. They also become magnified because this is where we choose to place our focus. 

Neuroscience has shown us that each of our emotions send a chemical-hormonal response to the brain. So if we continually dwell on any emotion, then we continually receive a chemical-hormonal stimulus. In this way, we can become addicted to our emotions, due to the chemicals or hormones. Over time we can forget what “normal” feels like and so we subconsciously create situations to give us more and more of that “fix”. 

Scientists have also proven that our emotional state can directly affect the emotional states of others around us. This is called Limbic Resonance. We intuitively “feel” others feelings, even if they try to hide the way they feel. Our feelings can become in line or resonate with others around us, especially if these emotional states are strong like, grief, anger and positive ones like love and compassion. Due to mirror neurons in the brain, we “mirror” others actions and feelings. Mirror neurons are considered the foundation of empathy and it can also explain things like mob mentality. 

Emotions are based on our perceptions. Perceptions are our interpretation of an event. So our perceptions and therefore our emotions, may even be based on misinformation, misinterpretation or old outdated beliefs. Explore your emotions. Ask, “What is that emotion trying to tell me?” “Is this emotion based on a misperception or is it like a signpost on the road of life, helping to guide me to make a positive change in my life?” 

When we learn to control and manage our emotions we take back control of our actions and reactions. We have a choice. We choose our thoughts and we choose where to place our focus. What we choose will determine our emotional states and those around us. That is emotional intelligence.


This information is for informational purposes only and not intended to as a substitute for medical or mental health issues. Hypnosis Center of Virginia is a hypnosis certification and training center located in Virginia Beach, Virginia. We offer a Hypnosis Certification program that is accredited by the National Guild of Hypnotists. For additional course details, visit our website at


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